Asking question for dating
I preface the question by saying that there is no wrong answer besides a dishonest one and add that my date doesn’t owe me anything except their frankness.
I won’t be angry with them, especially early on — I’m just trying to have all the information before I get more a relationship guy but who it turned out only wanted casual sex.
I’m a big believer in cutting some of the crap when it comes to how we’re told to behave on dates.
It’s mostly being in my first non-monogamous relationship that’s taught me this lesson — anyone I go out with will have a lot of questions about how my relationship and sex life work, and I feel it’s my responsibility to be as open as possible.
Asked with confidence, it makes you look very secure, which is always sexy.
I used to fill all the silence on dates with questions for the other person — it’s a way we subconsciously ingratiate ourselves.
It’s a pretty fundamental thing for two people who are potentially going to knock parts (and/or hearts) to know about each other, even if you’re not on the same page.
The nervousness, the awkwardness, the adrenaline rushes and the accidental touches - your first dates are full of mixed feelings.Nothing against casual sex, but I’m really glad I found that out before getting disappointed when he failed to live up to expectations I’d based on fantasies.I’m a fan of going for this one on the first date — how much they stumble over being honest reveals a lot about a person.That said, I’ve learned that I almost always end up regretting it if I don’t pose this question until right before I’m about to have sex with someone (or worse, if I don’t ask at all).Not only does their answer tell you their STI status, but how they react to the question will show you if they’re comfortable being an adult about sex, how honest they seem, and to what degree they prioritize safety and health.