Does online dating work yes and no
So instead of saying no, I usually just say nothing." Charlize, 30 "When a guy asks me out on a date in person and I want to decline, I usually say that I'm in a relationship. I just think there's no constructive aspect to being honest about why you're saying no in the initial encounter they've approached you in the right (respectful) way. However, given the gift of the scenario in which some asshole tries to do it, I relish in every opportunity for the public takedown.Then comes the all-too-familiar scenario of meeting someone—whether it's over the Internet or in person—and being initially attracted enough to exchange numbers, then being turned off for whatever (read: any) reason. The cripplingly cringe-y factor of having to do the "I'm just not that into you" dance is the worst.Here, nine women share their strategies for how they turn down a date—or just avoid it, depending on the style (and level of cowardice) of each particular lady.Between the time I started online dating and now, I've discovered exactly how dating websites work.I've tracked and analyzed data, spoken to computer scientists, and figured out what makes certain profiles successful.I'd enjoy an exhilarating freedom—I could learn how to paint or wear yoga pants all weekend long if I wanted.Best of all, there were hundreds of online dating sites waiting for me to sign on. We'd meet up later that day, when I'd discover that he was (a) five inches shorter than he listed in his profile; (b) "fun-employed" and no longer looking for a job; (c) still in some kind of relationship; (d) possibly a serial killer; (e) all of the above.
There was just one problem: I didn't want to throw myself back into the dating pool. I wasn't interested in meeting dozens of single men.Years ago, I was just out of a terrible relationship and in no mood to date again.My friends were all excited for my between-boyfriend time.Rachel, 28 "I am very blunt when I'm not interested.I don't have to do that very often, though, because I'm also very blunt when I don't want to give someone my number.