Real transgender dating
Those reasons are inevitably the beliefs that I am not a ‘real’ woman, that I am ‘actually a man’, that I am mentally ill, and, in the crusty underneath of it all, that I am not human.These beliefs are resistant to evidence to the contrary, of which there is plenty, and are similar to the other prejudices listed above.Indeed, these studies are a rationale for the provision of transition services and the increasing coverage of costs for those services.Transition saves lives, and the denial of transition kills trans people. The subtext to item 1 is, of course, ‘you shouldn’t be dating’.2.But some of the most striking differences were in regards to participants’ gender and sexual orientation.Virtually all heterosexuals excluded trans folks from their dating pool: only 1.8% of straight women and 3.3% of straight men chose a trans person of either binary gender.The options included cisgender man, cisgender woman, trans man, trans woman, or genderqueer, and participants could select as many genders as they wanted.
As with every ‘debate’ about trans existence — from toilets to medical access to birth certificates — what it comes down to is not trans actions, but cisgender discomfort.
In other words, the bearer holds these beliefs about trans women irrespective of any potential sexual encounter: They represent ignorance at best, bigotry at worst.
Refusal to consider the ample evidence which counters these beliefs places the bearer firmly in the class of bigot.(Just to underscore: Trans women are women, we are born women, and we will always be women, whatever the state of our bodies—just as you will always be you, regardless of the state of your body.
Let’s be clear: We all have legitimate preferences in the bodies we connect with — I myself favour larger men (sorry, you guys under 180cm and 90kg! But when you reject a woman who , one has to wonder what’s really going on here.
When it comes to rejecting someone like me—someone whose appearance, function, and manner are indistinguishable from those of a cisgender woman—just because I have a trans history, the reasons must be intangible.